Before you speak, Listen
Before you write, Think
Before you spend , Earn
Before you criticised, Wait
Before you pray, Forgive
Before you quit, Try
Hmmm, have a think bout it.
Till then Cheers
-nicq-
Friday, April 4, 2008
Thursday, April 3, 2008
lifestyle
Now a days compared to 10 years ago, is actually different. Yah........ hof coz it suppose to be different, wether a good one or bad one. Time has change actually. What am actually wanna say is The hang out at Starbucks outlets trend. You wont get this kind of situation back then, maybe about 15 years ago i suppose.
I also do the same thing. Its been since last 2 days and today. Its kind of monthly activity of me. Dont care whether am alone, ( read storybooks, newspaper etc) or hang out with my frens. Normally what we do is have a chat and mengayam ketupat ( say bad or good to other ppl) to anyone who passby around us. See if this ppl have a good skin, nice shirt, how ugly they wear, that person is cute , that person not nice doing like that and etc etc.
I really had fun. Not the part where we comment bad thing to other person. But then see people and anlyse them and then have a thought on yourself ( konon nyer musabahah diri la......kuikuikui). same like what i do by hopping one blog to another blog. somehow or rather, they always give advise, thought of life.
Moral of the story over ere, even in muslim we always been thought on one thing " never say the bad thing to other people" its really no good. Though its fun but then " STILL .... no good." heheheheheheh. When i think it back it remind me of a story
Back then i dont care what other people wanna say bout me. and im actually did something bad that bring graceful to me. The bad thing i did turn to a laughing stock and talk back among the peers. and i found out theres one fella really love to say it and spread the news with additional story. I keep quiet and let the time heels. Then the news on what i did turn quiet. Then lately i met that fella and guess what........... What actually he say bad thing bout me before has turn 4x to him ............ even worse
hows that...........
So dont talk bad about other people,
Till then Cheers
- Nicq -
I also do the same thing. Its been since last 2 days and today. Its kind of monthly activity of me. Dont care whether am alone, ( read storybooks, newspaper etc) or hang out with my frens. Normally what we do is have a chat and mengayam ketupat ( say bad or good to other ppl) to anyone who passby around us. See if this ppl have a good skin, nice shirt, how ugly they wear, that person is cute , that person not nice doing like that and etc etc.
I really had fun. Not the part where we comment bad thing to other person. But then see people and anlyse them and then have a thought on yourself ( konon nyer musabahah diri la......kuikuikui). same like what i do by hopping one blog to another blog. somehow or rather, they always give advise, thought of life.
Moral of the story over ere, even in muslim we always been thought on one thing " never say the bad thing to other people" its really no good. Though its fun but then " STILL .... no good." heheheheheheh. When i think it back it remind me of a story
Back then i dont care what other people wanna say bout me. and im actually did something bad that bring graceful to me. The bad thing i did turn to a laughing stock and talk back among the peers. and i found out theres one fella really love to say it and spread the news with additional story. I keep quiet and let the time heels. Then the news on what i did turn quiet. Then lately i met that fella and guess what........... What actually he say bad thing bout me before has turn 4x to him ............ even worse
hows that...........
So dont talk bad about other people,
Till then Cheers
- Nicq -
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Bagaimana Menyayangi Seseorang...
Sayang, kuharap bahawa dirimu akan mengerti:
1. Sayangi dia dengan hati, bukan dengan perasaan. Jika anda meletakkan sesuatu perhubungan berdasarkan perasaan, ianya akan gagal kerana perasaan sentiasa berubah dari masa ke semasa.
2. Sayangi dia seadanya. Di dunia terdapat hampir 6 billion manusia dengan 6 billion personaliti. Dia sememangnya seorang yang istimewa dan biarkan ianya kekal begitu. Jangan sesekali terfikir untuk mengubah apa-apa tentang dia kerana sekali anda mengubah, selamanya anda akan terus mengubah dirinya. Tentu anda masih ingat, anda terpikat padanya kerana dia adalah dia. Maka, tiada alasan untuk anda mengubah dia untuk menjadi seseorang yang lain.
3. Sayangi dia sepenuh hati. Sesungguhnya dia telah banyak berkorban untuk anda. Dengan kelebihan yang ada padanya, dia berpeluang untuk menjalin hubungan dengan seseorang yang lebih sempurna tapi demi cinta, dia telah memilih diri anda. Maka, jangan sesekali cuba untuk mempermain-mainkan keluhuran cintanya.
4. Hormati pendirian dan keputusan dia. Jangan anda merayu dan jangan mencipta alasan supaya dia menerima cinta anda kerana kelak, yang anda akan dapat darinya hanyalah cinta simpati dan bukannya cinta setulus hati.
5. Yakinkan diri anda akan keistimewaan dia. Dia adalah satu-satunya di dunia ini dan jangan mengharapkan kesempurnaan dari dia kerana dia telahpun cukup sempurna semenjak anda mula terpikat padanya.
6. Percaya akan dirinya. Sentiasa bersangka baik padanya jika kita juga mahukan sebegitu darinya. Pastikan anda akan sentiasa meletakkan diri anda di tempatnya sebelum melakukan apa-apa. Jika anda sendiri tidak dapat menerimanya, apatah lagi dia.
7. Jangan berjanji menyayangi dia untuk selama-lamanya kerana selama-lamanya bagi anda mungkin akan berakhir keesokkan harinya, tapi berjanjilah untuk menyayangi dirinya seolah-olah setiap hari itu adalah hari yang terakhir untuk anda berdua.
8. BERCINTA dengannya adalah seperti memberi hati anda kepadanya untuk dilukai tapi kepercayaan itu penting. Percayalah kepadanya, nescaya dia akan melindunginya sepenuh jiwa dan raga.
9. Jangan sesekali meninggalkan dia tanpa sebarang alasan. Dia bukan hanya akan setakat menangis kecewa dan kemudiannya meneruskan hidup seperti biasa, ketahuilah bahawa jiwanya akan mati secara perlahan.
1. Sayangi dia dengan hati, bukan dengan perasaan. Jika anda meletakkan sesuatu perhubungan berdasarkan perasaan, ianya akan gagal kerana perasaan sentiasa berubah dari masa ke semasa.
2. Sayangi dia seadanya. Di dunia terdapat hampir 6 billion manusia dengan 6 billion personaliti. Dia sememangnya seorang yang istimewa dan biarkan ianya kekal begitu. Jangan sesekali terfikir untuk mengubah apa-apa tentang dia kerana sekali anda mengubah, selamanya anda akan terus mengubah dirinya. Tentu anda masih ingat, anda terpikat padanya kerana dia adalah dia. Maka, tiada alasan untuk anda mengubah dia untuk menjadi seseorang yang lain.
3. Sayangi dia sepenuh hati. Sesungguhnya dia telah banyak berkorban untuk anda. Dengan kelebihan yang ada padanya, dia berpeluang untuk menjalin hubungan dengan seseorang yang lebih sempurna tapi demi cinta, dia telah memilih diri anda. Maka, jangan sesekali cuba untuk mempermain-mainkan keluhuran cintanya.
4. Hormati pendirian dan keputusan dia. Jangan anda merayu dan jangan mencipta alasan supaya dia menerima cinta anda kerana kelak, yang anda akan dapat darinya hanyalah cinta simpati dan bukannya cinta setulus hati.
5. Yakinkan diri anda akan keistimewaan dia. Dia adalah satu-satunya di dunia ini dan jangan mengharapkan kesempurnaan dari dia kerana dia telahpun cukup sempurna semenjak anda mula terpikat padanya.
6. Percaya akan dirinya. Sentiasa bersangka baik padanya jika kita juga mahukan sebegitu darinya. Pastikan anda akan sentiasa meletakkan diri anda di tempatnya sebelum melakukan apa-apa. Jika anda sendiri tidak dapat menerimanya, apatah lagi dia.
7. Jangan berjanji menyayangi dia untuk selama-lamanya kerana selama-lamanya bagi anda mungkin akan berakhir keesokkan harinya, tapi berjanjilah untuk menyayangi dirinya seolah-olah setiap hari itu adalah hari yang terakhir untuk anda berdua.
8. BERCINTA dengannya adalah seperti memberi hati anda kepadanya untuk dilukai tapi kepercayaan itu penting. Percayalah kepadanya, nescaya dia akan melindunginya sepenuh jiwa dan raga.
9. Jangan sesekali meninggalkan dia tanpa sebarang alasan. Dia bukan hanya akan setakat menangis kecewa dan kemudiannya meneruskan hidup seperti biasa, ketahuilah bahawa jiwanya akan mati secara perlahan.
Untuk chentaku dariku
-Cancer Ian Guy-
Glory or Booming
Working in a company that already reach to a Century Celebration in a certain extend it really feels proud in our heart. Well who doesn't. Work in an establish company, good benefits, good infrasturcture, good facility, good here, good that. But then, some how or rather, to a certain extant its really not bring a satisfaction in my heart.
Maybe because of the internal matter i.e Leadership and guidance.
To me who came from a small company and guide by a good leader, always make me looking forward to have a better prospect in my career. Been thought in several ways, hard, soft, in direct, laser, curse, etc. etc, still make me looking forward to improve myself to a better person.
But then when im in this century company. I didnt get it. But i like the job, i like the environment, i like the college, and i like the people inside. Yet, still not satisfied me. Make me hunt for a new job and partially start from scratch.
But then, when i say this to some people, they may say, normal la tu... Thats what we call life, challange is every where. That is the barrier you need to face it and overcome it. Well, i tried to clam myself with say that. but still not satisfied enough. Then it make me wonder, does it leadership or guidance that am looking for or my own goal for the career acheivement. so in this point, let say the leadership is bad, why must it effect with my career. Aren't you big enough to control urself and take your own lead?
By this point also i have made my decision. No matter what happen rite now, it all about me and my goal. The leadership not right is a challange and midset play a big roll put you where u are and what are you and who you wanna be and how you gonna make it happen. Coz why i do this thing, its all for my goal and i want to achieve it.....
I have made a decision to move and i got it. God basically give me a chance to improve and show what good thing that i can give for me and my interest. Leaving the century company its simply not easy for me. Good fren- best fren in fact, good environment, good benefit, good working place and lot more. Maybe its a fate that i just able to enjoy those things just for a year. But then i like it and i really appreciate it. Thanks to my good fren, good buddy and good college.
Till then - Cheers
Nicq
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Double R
Risk & Relationship, Do you ever know that if we involve in relationship there are a lot of risk that we are taking? What kind of risk do we have to face in relationship? Hm… Let me see.
During our study life and work life we have learned about Business Risk Management, but in term of human contact the relationship that we build involve a lot of risk that we have to learn thru experience and we have to manage it very well to make sure no one is hurt. There are many kind of risk in relationship, start with Risk of Commitment, Risk of Honesty and Loyalty, Risk of Sharing, Risk of Sex and many more that all of you can think of.
All of this risk we have to accept after we decide not to be alone and decide to share all the inner feeling with our couple. In PLU life or some people call it as GSK, the risk of relationship is much higher than the normal people. The tendency of relationship broken due to poor management of risk is higher. Why is that? Some people said because we are not normal. Yes, we are not normal but we have chosen to be like this. There must be some solution for this. How many PLU couple can survive long lasting relationship? And some of them prefer to have open relationship to make sure the relationship is long lasting. Is that one of the risk management in relationship? What’s the purpose of couple?
I choose to be in PLU life because I don’t have any stronger feeling towards versus gender. I don’t want to be alone and I really appreciate relationship. But, being in this kind of society will I being able to get someone who appreciates relationship too? Who are not into open relationship, which believe in monogamous?
Its not easy to manage relationship risk in this modern society, its depend on how you manage it with your partner. Even myself are afraid of broken relationship or friendship. For time being, I really miss my CHENTA, and I really hope him and myself are pulling together to make this relationship worth. He is not very far away and I can drive there for 2 hours just to see him. I just want this feeling to become stronger and my love to him will rise day by day. My CHENTA, I Love You so much…
-Cancer Ian Guy-
During our study life and work life we have learned about Business Risk Management, but in term of human contact the relationship that we build involve a lot of risk that we have to learn thru experience and we have to manage it very well to make sure no one is hurt. There are many kind of risk in relationship, start with Risk of Commitment, Risk of Honesty and Loyalty, Risk of Sharing, Risk of Sex and many more that all of you can think of.
All of this risk we have to accept after we decide not to be alone and decide to share all the inner feeling with our couple. In PLU life or some people call it as GSK, the risk of relationship is much higher than the normal people. The tendency of relationship broken due to poor management of risk is higher. Why is that? Some people said because we are not normal. Yes, we are not normal but we have chosen to be like this. There must be some solution for this. How many PLU couple can survive long lasting relationship? And some of them prefer to have open relationship to make sure the relationship is long lasting. Is that one of the risk management in relationship? What’s the purpose of couple?
I choose to be in PLU life because I don’t have any stronger feeling towards versus gender. I don’t want to be alone and I really appreciate relationship. But, being in this kind of society will I being able to get someone who appreciates relationship too? Who are not into open relationship, which believe in monogamous?
Its not easy to manage relationship risk in this modern society, its depend on how you manage it with your partner. Even myself are afraid of broken relationship or friendship. For time being, I really miss my CHENTA, and I really hope him and myself are pulling together to make this relationship worth. He is not very far away and I can drive there for 2 hours just to see him. I just want this feeling to become stronger and my love to him will rise day by day. My CHENTA, I Love You so much…
-Cancer Ian Guy-
Me, The Cancer Ian
My star horoscope explained a lot about myself.
Cancerian
The sign of Cancer witnesses to the importance of a sense of belonging in human life. It is, more than any other, the sign of home and family, but, fortunately in view of the conditions of modern life, not necessarily home and family in a literal sense. The Cancer emphasis in birth chart shows what you are striving for, whether consciously or not, is a sense that, whatever the circumstances, there is a place on earth, or an experience, or a group of people, or an interest, which can give a sense of belonging, where you can feel at home and that you are a member of a family.
The sign of Cancer also witnesses to the importance of roots, or origins, of considering the present in relation to the past. Many people feel they can ignore the past, yet feel something is lacking from their lives. Cancerians enrich the present by honouring its links to history.
Since Cancerians have a need to feel they belong, they can be very reluctant to let go of or move on from situations that give them a sense of emotional security, and sometimes it is necessary to move on. Cancer is ruled by the Moon, and to have the Sun in the Moon's sign can indicate a reluctance to leave the realm of Mother, childhood home and family in order to undertake the solar task of becoming an individual in one's own right. This task is symbolised by the move from Cancer to the next sign Leo, which is ruled by the Sun.
Cancer is a water sign, and the psychological opposite is air, the thinking function. If you chart is lacking in planets in air, you are likely to find it difficult to view emotionally complex situations in which you may find yourself with any detachment. This can lead to compatibility issues in love relationships. People whose charts are dominated by the element of air may describe you as ‘over-emotional’ - and maybe you see them as too detached! Suppose you have the Moon in Aquarius - an air sign - to complement your Cancerian emphasis. You may be instinctively drawn to an ideal (an air phenomenon) that conflicts with your need to belong, and you have to perform an inner negotiation to honor both parts of your own nature.
The above is just a brief sketch of the sort of qualities Cancer should be aiming for. If you are experiencing difficulties on the way, the rest of your birth chart will indicate where these difficulties are, and a consultation would very likely provide clues as to how to deal with them. All aspects of our nature, as represented by the planets in signs and houses of our charts, need to be honoured and respected.
Do I have to explain more…?
Cancerian
The sign of Cancer witnesses to the importance of a sense of belonging in human life. It is, more than any other, the sign of home and family, but, fortunately in view of the conditions of modern life, not necessarily home and family in a literal sense. The Cancer emphasis in birth chart shows what you are striving for, whether consciously or not, is a sense that, whatever the circumstances, there is a place on earth, or an experience, or a group of people, or an interest, which can give a sense of belonging, where you can feel at home and that you are a member of a family.
The sign of Cancer also witnesses to the importance of roots, or origins, of considering the present in relation to the past. Many people feel they can ignore the past, yet feel something is lacking from their lives. Cancerians enrich the present by honouring its links to history.
Since Cancerians have a need to feel they belong, they can be very reluctant to let go of or move on from situations that give them a sense of emotional security, and sometimes it is necessary to move on. Cancer is ruled by the Moon, and to have the Sun in the Moon's sign can indicate a reluctance to leave the realm of Mother, childhood home and family in order to undertake the solar task of becoming an individual in one's own right. This task is symbolised by the move from Cancer to the next sign Leo, which is ruled by the Sun.
Cancer is a water sign, and the psychological opposite is air, the thinking function. If you chart is lacking in planets in air, you are likely to find it difficult to view emotionally complex situations in which you may find yourself with any detachment. This can lead to compatibility issues in love relationships. People whose charts are dominated by the element of air may describe you as ‘over-emotional’ - and maybe you see them as too detached! Suppose you have the Moon in Aquarius - an air sign - to complement your Cancerian emphasis. You may be instinctively drawn to an ideal (an air phenomenon) that conflicts with your need to belong, and you have to perform an inner negotiation to honor both parts of your own nature.
The above is just a brief sketch of the sort of qualities Cancer should be aiming for. If you are experiencing difficulties on the way, the rest of your birth chart will indicate where these difficulties are, and a consultation would very likely provide clues as to how to deal with them. All aspects of our nature, as represented by the planets in signs and houses of our charts, need to be honoured and respected.
Do I have to explain more…?
Housework
Be a "Man", a single man to be exact sometime its really difficult. We have to do everything that we need to do. For example, washing clothes, cook ( hehehe we rather buy ), pay bills, cleaning house and lots more where normally this thing is done by a girl or lady.Well, some of us, just do a shortcut by sending it to dobi, or laundry. Others who is dont want waste their money they buy a washing machine and washed it on their own.
Its basically wonders me, how our mom can do it. For example my mom, when i was kid, she had to wash clothes for my dad, my siblings and me that would be 4 of us and her clothes. All together is 6 of us........ not just wash it, dry it - hang it ( and she's gonna scream and nagging whole day if we all forget to take it when its rainin) , fold it and iron it. Just imagine that how hard can it be.......wierd aite........ but that whats God have gave strength to her. Now, she still doing the same thing but only for herself and for my dad. So just imagine other family consist of 8 person or more than that. Like old time, one family is lot compare to nowadays, 4 siblings pun consider alot. Thats only wash the cloth part, what bout others like cook, clean the house, working and thae care all of us............
Why i pop up this thing is because of i have to washed 1 weeks clothes and fold for a 2 weeks dry shirt. Not just mine, but whole community in our house. Ya ampun...........it takes me about 2 hours and give me a backpain.........
After for 2 hours, then im lazy to put it inside the closet. Gosh, really lazy babe......... u know why, coz when i fold it, i do it at downstairs and lazy to take it up. several round it might takes........woke up this morning and go down to work , still i can see the clothes that i've done it still there. No one to take it. Coz im alone last nite and no one at home last nite.
This thing happen if you are alone ah. And for a "Normal" guys, the easy way is by get married. so all the things i've said, been done by their wife. Does it fair...... hmmmmm
Something can be done to make it right.................And for the other category of "Normal guys" you know which one to choose.
Moral of the story i want to say over ere is, if you wanna do the house work or "have" to do, please do it once a week so that it wont turn to a mountain and to mantain as a Single guy........ this is our routine........
Till then........ cheers
Its basically wonders me, how our mom can do it. For example my mom, when i was kid, she had to wash clothes for my dad, my siblings and me that would be 4 of us and her clothes. All together is 6 of us........ not just wash it, dry it - hang it ( and she's gonna scream and nagging whole day if we all forget to take it when its rainin) , fold it and iron it. Just imagine that how hard can it be.......wierd aite........ but that whats God have gave strength to her. Now, she still doing the same thing but only for herself and for my dad. So just imagine other family consist of 8 person or more than that. Like old time, one family is lot compare to nowadays, 4 siblings pun consider alot. Thats only wash the cloth part, what bout others like cook, clean the house, working and thae care all of us............
Why i pop up this thing is because of i have to washed 1 weeks clothes and fold for a 2 weeks dry shirt. Not just mine, but whole community in our house. Ya ampun...........it takes me about 2 hours and give me a backpain.........
After for 2 hours, then im lazy to put it inside the closet. Gosh, really lazy babe......... u know why, coz when i fold it, i do it at downstairs and lazy to take it up. several round it might takes........woke up this morning and go down to work , still i can see the clothes that i've done it still there. No one to take it. Coz im alone last nite and no one at home last nite.
This thing happen if you are alone ah. And for a "Normal" guys, the easy way is by get married. so all the things i've said, been done by their wife. Does it fair...... hmmmmm
Something can be done to make it right.................And for the other category of "Normal guys" you know which one to choose.
Moral of the story i want to say over ere is, if you wanna do the house work or "have" to do, please do it once a week so that it wont turn to a mountain and to mantain as a Single guy........ this is our routine........
Till then........ cheers
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